The Story “How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret To Success” by Tara Haelie is about teaching children that they need to learn from their mistakes rather than just ignoring them and moving on to something else. She talks about Gail Heyman’s research as a professor of psychology that shows kids will work harder to correct or learn from their mistake through the influence of parents. If they get a comforting response it sends a message that they should give up on whatever it is that they did wrong and try something else, rather than fixing their mistakes or trying to improve upon the subject they lack skill in. Though in some surveys students were shown to do better when parents asked what they learned from the quiz and saw it as an opportunity to learn, rather than just comforting their children and telling them that they aren’t good in all subjects. Later in the essay Haelie writes about white students correlating academic success with athletics and social success. However, it was not the same case for Latinos, and China had a mixed bag of answers. The point that Haelie is trying to convey is that not every race, culture, and child are different in the terms of academics, and how they learn and how intelligence is measured. I believe this is a very informative essay that proves itself to be true based on facts given by the author.
In the essay How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret, by Tara Haelle, the author discusses how different parents and children perceive failure. She first starts by describing a study done by Kyla Haimovitz, a professor of psychology at Stanford. In Haimovitz’s study she examines lots of students and their parents. During the study she takes notes about their views of failure. In addition to interviews, Haimovitz also conducted online surveys. From all the studies she did, Haimovitz learnt that when a child fails it is more important to focus on what you can learn from the failure then what you are not able to do. Haelle then goes on to discuss that these study results don’t always stay the same for students of different socioeconomic backgrounds. The author then descirbes that the challenge is in the hands of the parents. They have to find an effective way to support their children, but without putting them in the path for failure. I believe that the author was able to effectively describe the study that Haimovitz did. However, I think she should have included more of her own opinion on the topic. As a whole, this article gave me a vague idea on how parents should work with their children when they fail. This essay reminds of the time that I failed my first test in 2nd grade. My parents didn’t necessarily take the same approach that Haimovitz’s study showed was the best. My parents just gave me a nice meal and I was told that I would get in trouble if it happened again. Shishira
In the essay,"How to teach children that failure is the secret to success", Tara Haelle describes the correlation between what parents teach their kids about failure, and how kids think about their abilities as students. She then goes on to explain her studies. Haelle does not make her own claim, she talks about the subject in more of an objective manner. Her thesis is unclear, making the reader wonder what the big idea really is. Haelle does not have her own unique voice while writing this essay. The majority of the writing was quotes and no real opinion. She could have added some anecdotal evidence, so that it would appeal to pathos and not just logos. This essay reminds me of when I got a B on a midterm (you must understand that I never get B's) so I was really upset. My mom took the same approach that Haelle said to use when your student gets a below average (for them) grade. However, she did say that if it ever happened again, I would get in trouble (unless I had studied really hard).
"How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelie is about exactly what it sound like, except it never actually tells you how to teach your children. The entire essay was about why children who parents are more constructive are more likely to succeed. She focuses mainly on the research of Kyla Haimovitz and Carol Dweck, both of whom are quoted endlessly throughout the entire passage. Her article was not very engaging since the same people would be saying the same thing in different words the entire time. Sure, research is provided, but the reasoning behind it is repeated till the point of exhaustion. "Failure isn't necessarily a bad thing so tell your kids to keep trying." is basically the soul of this essay.
The essay “How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success” by Tara Haelle discusses the importance of parents teaching their children that failure is something to build success off of. She begins her informative essay by describing just how influential parents are in effecting the lives of their children through the message they send. She goes on to provide examples of several studies that have been conducting which show that children are more likely to face less stress and improve off of their failures when their parents have a mindset of improvement as well. Towards the end, she does a nice job of providing a counter example against the failure-is-an-opportunity mindset by stating that the message can backfire, causing students to blame their parents for the difficulties they may have. Finally, Haelle ends her article with a short quotation on the importance of striking the right balance between the two mindsets she discussed. Throughout this piece of writing, Haelle includes a large amount of quotations and statistics to explain the points she is laying out. From the first paragraph to the last, she quotes other professionals in the field. While this may help her build her credibility (ethos), she does very little analyzing. Although the evidence and quotations do speak for themselves, it is very difficult to distinguish her own voice and style of writing. Personally, I feel that this essay could use a bit more of the author’s own analysis to keep the reader interested. Without it, it simply feels like reading the very same studies that the information came from. In the end, I do agree with her finishing point. Good parenting is typically about finding the right balance between ways to act around your children. Whether it is being strict vs. giving the child freedom or helping kids vs. letting them learn on their own, typically the use of both in moderation can result in the best outcomes.
The short story "How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle is about how parents should teach their children to learn from their mistakes. Haelle talks about how kids shouldn't just let the failures devastate them, but let them learn a valuable lesson. Various psychology professors, like Kyla Haimovitz, were interviewed and the overall message that was stated was parents play a critical part in teaching and helping their children develop. "Parents have this powerful effect really early on and throughout childhood to send messages about what is a failure, and how to respond to it."(244) This shows that parents have a bond with their children and that allows the kids to look up to them and respond accordingly. Haimovitz says that how the parents react to their children's failures, they will impact their decisions on how they will conquer mistakes. There were also surveys that were conducted and one of the results were that the children's beliefs are typically what their parent's beliefs for. The ethnic and racial background play a role in determining how the children will see their failures. Different cultures have various beliefs towards standards. I think that this article was well written but most of it was talking about a study that different professors have researched. Haelle should have added more of her own opinion and ideas to the article so it could give her point of view, not another person's. This article reminds me of when I messed up at a piano competition. I felt really bad but my parents encouraged me and told me that it was just another learning experience. After that I learned from my mistakes and kept practicing for the following year.
"How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle discusses the conundrum of good parenting and how to treat failure. Haelle incorporates different studies in different settings to strengthen her examination and emphasises the importance of balance, suggesting that treating failure as a hindrance would most likely encourage a fixed mindset while ignoring failure or "encouraging" failure would probably lead to disbelief and a total lack of growth. It is here that Haelle points out the challenge for parenting: be a strong support system for the child but let them have their own growth. Haelle builds her essay with many quotes and study results, therefore using lots of logos and ethos. She also chooses a selection of studies from different settings around the world and acknowledges how culture will affect a child's mindset. However, her use of a variety of studies also hinders her essay as it comes to the point where she will put out an idea and immediately backtrack it. There is no backbone for the content she uses. This essay makes me try to empathise with my parents, something that I have had a bit of trouble with. I like to think that I'm pretty good with empathy, I can empathise with strangers, book characters, friends, enemies, etc. However I have never been able to really empathise with my parents. Rationally I know that they are trying to raise me the best they can, but I am also a sort of outcast in my family: I'm the only one focused on humanities and liberal arts. This difference causes more problems than what immediately comes to mind, especially within our system of belief and failure. I don't believe that I know enough to fully understand what is happening and how it affects me, but for now I just have to wait it out. Claire Liu
In Haelle's "How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success," she informs the reader on the effects of failure and setting up for success. She starts off the passage by stressing the importance parents have on their children, by using the quote of Haimovitz, saying, "Parents need to represent this to their kids in the ways they react about their kids' failures and setbacks." She then expands on the idea by saying that the way a child learn from mistakes and set themselves for success is based on the response the parent gives.
After Haimovitz and Dweck conducting studies, they came to the conclusion that, "The way children perceived 'being smart' was not related to how their parents perceived intelligence, but it was related to how their parents reacted toward failure" in the research of how the interactions between parent's failure and intelligence mindsets affected their children's beliefs of intelligence. With the continuation of studies, both found that, "Those who saw failure as negative were more likely to worry about their child's abilities in that subject or to comfort their child about not being talented in all subjects. But parents who saw failure as an opportunity were more likely to ask their child what they learned from the quiz, what they still can learn and whether asking the teacher for help would be useful." Finally in their final study, it was seen that a parent's failure beliefs directly caused their children's beliefs through their reactions to failure.
The author then sums up the work's content by saying it's paramount for parents to support children while also not being to passive, which in result, creating it to backfire.
I find this passage very informative with its objectivity and wise quotes from professionals. -Jonah Bahr
"How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" a story by Tara Haelle is a story about teaching children how to use their mistakes as a learning experience and help them improve rather than just let them go. A study by Gail Heyman, a professor of psychology, says that what the kids take from what they got wrong depends on how the parents react. If the parents react with a response that comforts the child, the child will move on and focus on something else. On the other hand, if the parent asked the child what they learned, and what they can still learn even if they did poorly, the parents would use this as a learning opportunity and not just comfort their child. According to Cleopatra Abdou, no matter what, across all cultures, is that the message that we get as children stays with us and a hard to unlearn. The message that Haelle wants to point out is that the message you give as a parent will resonate in your child for the rest of their life, and that the this happens to every race and culture the same way. I think that the story is a good message, and it was backed up with many facts.
"How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle is a piece about how an adults outlook on failure can greatly influence their children's lives. Haelle talks about how parents should teach their children to learn from failure instead of getting mad or not caring at all. She cites a study by Gail Heyman, who is a psychology professor. The study says that kids base their conception of failure on what their parents teach them and how their parents react. Children can end up being either too hard on themselves or too laid back about failure, depending on how their parents react earlier in their lives. This essay is very well written, with good ethos elements with the quotes and studies that are referenced, strong pathos with the results of the studies and how parents will feel more responsible for how their kid's futures and outlooks on a main part of life, failure. There is also good logos with all the facts and statistics through the studies. Haelle's message, generally stated, is that as a parent you are responsible for pieces of knowledge that will form what your child sees as reality.
In the short essay, "How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle explains studies she has conducted and analyzed. At the beginning, she brings up a point about how parents can have an effect on their child's development in mindsets and motivation. She later gives an example, "If a child comes home with a D on a math test, how a parent responds will influence how the child perceives their own ability to learn math." If the parent responds in a good intention-ed way saying, "It's OK, you're still a great writer." it will send the wrong message to the child. She analyzes the study conducted by Haimovitz and Dweek about how the "interactions between parents' failure and intelligence mindsets affected their children's beliefs about intelligence." The question they orchestrated their study on was based on whether the parents sought intelligence as "something that could change and whether they saw failure as positive, or as negative." The children responded that intelligence was not based off what their parents thought of it as. Their multiple studies in the United States have shown that more parents who believe that failure undermines intelligence, the more concerned the children will be about their grades than the overall understanding on the topic. The parents of the children correlate failure as a learning opportunity often are interested in what the student can still learn. Later, socioeconomic backgrounds, race, and culture are factored in the equation, and a study in China has proven that the results differ among different ethnic groups such as black and Latino students. The universal message that the author expresses is that students usually tend to follow through with what their parents have taught them.
In the essay, "How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success," is about the author's input into why failure can be beneficial towards a child's life, especially the child's early stages. The author brings up Heyman's studies, which were about the child's interpretations and conceptions about failure are all from what the parents teach them. I believe that Heyman is trying to point out that the parents of a child must support them as much as they can, however, the child must grow by themselves. One thing that I felt was flawed in this essay was that the author didn't necessarily voice their opinion, but instead tries to voice her opinion mainly based off of other studies. I would've loved to see more of what the author thought. The message that Haelle is truly trying to show is that parents have a huge factor inside of a child's life, specifically when teaching things to the child.
Tara Haelle concludes in “How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success” that children learn their attitudes about failure and growth from their parents at a young age. If parents believe that failure is debilitating, rather than an opportunity for growth, their children will believe the same. Thus, parents should be more mindful about the assumptions concerning failure and learning from failure that they impart on their children. Much of Haelle’s essay is based on research from psychologists Carol Dweck and Kyla Haimovitz. Haelle quotes from Dweck that “Parents have this powerful effect really early on and throughout childhood to send messages about what is failure,[and] how to respond to it. Parents, Haelle writes, must take each of their children’s failures as an opportunity to stimulate growth. Haimovitz is quoted as stating “The takeaway that [from research about mindsets] is that when your child is struggling on something or has setbacks, don’t focus on their abilities, focus on what they can learn from it.” However, Haelle cautions against blaming parents entirely for their children's attitudes about failure; temperament, which is generally intrinsic to an individual, is also partly responsible for the mindsets people form. Haelle concludes her essay by noting the difficulties of mindset-conscious parenting. Parents must balance encouraging their children and passing on personal responsibility. Haelle’s thesis is correct, and highly difficult to doubt in light of the extensive evidence she employs. However, the author brings no new insights or implications of the research she presents. “How to Teach Children” is not really an essay in any meaningful sense, but merely a summarization of already-popular psychological research. The utter uselessness of Haelle’s essay is further comprehended when the fact that the conclusions she presents are totally uncontroversial is realized: it is inconceivable that any parent would doubt that their beliefs are passed on to their children. Friedrich Nietzsche even recognized this in the 194th aphorism of Beyond Good and Evil: “Parents involuntarily make something like themselves out of their children--they call that "education"; no mother doubts at the bottom of her heart that the child she has borne is thereby her property, no father hesitates about his right to HIS OWN ideas and notions of worth.” Moreover, the implications of the new mindset research are much less happy and sympathetic than they superficially seem. The full adoption of Haelle’s thesis means that children will no longer be able to compartmentalize their self-disappointment from failure as stemming from natural inclinations and disadvantages--they will account each of their failures as the total result of their actions, i.e., they will observe a failure in the sense of its real meaning. This is admirable, but it requires much more bravery and determination than most possess and that Haelle accounts for. Once the true implications of mindset psychology are accepted, the surreal ironies of the present situation come to light. The popular Instagram platitudes and motivational speeches that informally cite these ideas are the negation of this research in terms of its true meaning. For the current culture to elevate the myth of the individual to further heights of greatness, it also had to secretly insert a newer, vaster, soul-crushing personal responsibility humanity must acknowledge if it wishes to maintain the current pretense of godly individualism. Nietzsche’s legacy becomes oddly visible in this case: the masses, realizing the awe of the few, has invented a new social order that made the rendered the two extremes indistinguishable. Haelle’s essay is ultimately cheap praise of humanity’s replacement of the religious and biological family with the individual and state.
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ReplyDeleteThe Story “How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret To Success” by Tara Haelie is about teaching children that they need to learn from their mistakes rather than just ignoring them and moving on to something else. She talks about Gail Heyman’s research as a professor of psychology that shows kids will work harder to correct or learn from their mistake through the influence of parents. If they get a comforting response it sends a message that they should give up on whatever it is that they did wrong and try something else, rather than fixing their mistakes or trying to improve upon the subject they lack skill in. Though in some surveys students were shown to do better when parents asked what they learned from the quiz and saw it as an opportunity to learn, rather than just comforting their children and telling them that they aren’t good in all subjects. Later in the essay Haelie writes about white students correlating academic success with athletics and social success. However, it was not the same case for Latinos, and China had a mixed bag of answers. The point that Haelie is trying to convey is that not every race, culture, and child are different in the terms of academics, and how they learn and how intelligence is measured. I believe this is a very informative essay that proves itself to be true based on facts given by the author.
ReplyDeleteIn the essay How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret, by Tara Haelle, the author discusses how different parents and children perceive failure. She first starts by describing a study done by Kyla Haimovitz, a professor of psychology at Stanford. In Haimovitz’s study she examines lots of students and their parents. During the study she takes notes about their views of failure. In addition to interviews, Haimovitz also conducted online surveys. From all the studies she did, Haimovitz learnt that when a child fails it is more important to focus on what you can learn from the failure then what you are not able to do. Haelle then goes on to discuss that these study results don’t always stay the same for students of different socioeconomic backgrounds. The author then descirbes that the challenge is in the hands of the parents. They have to find an effective way to support their children, but without putting them in the path for failure. I believe that the author was able to effectively describe the study that Haimovitz did. However, I think she should have included more of her own opinion on the topic. As a whole, this article gave me a vague idea on how parents should work with their children when they fail. This essay reminds of the time that I failed my first test in 2nd grade. My parents didn’t necessarily take the same approach that Haimovitz’s study showed was the best. My parents just gave me a nice meal and I was told that I would get in trouble if it happened again.
ReplyDeleteShishira
In the essay,"How to teach children that failure is the secret to success", Tara Haelle describes the correlation between what parents teach their kids about failure, and how kids think about their abilities as students. She then goes on to explain her studies.
ReplyDeleteHaelle does not make her own claim, she talks about the subject in more of an objective manner. Her thesis is unclear, making the reader wonder what the big idea really is. Haelle does not have her own unique voice while writing this essay. The majority of the writing was quotes and no real opinion. She could have added some anecdotal evidence, so that it would appeal to pathos and not just logos.
This essay reminds me of when I got a B on a midterm (you must understand that I never get B's) so I was really upset. My mom took the same approach that Haelle said to use when your student gets a below average (for them) grade. However, she did say that if it ever happened again, I would get in trouble (unless I had studied really hard).
"How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelie is about exactly what it sound like, except it never actually tells you how to teach your children. The entire essay was about why children who parents are more constructive are more likely to succeed. She focuses mainly on the research of Kyla Haimovitz and Carol Dweck, both of whom are quoted endlessly throughout the entire passage. Her article was not very engaging since the same people would be saying the same thing in different words the entire time. Sure, research is provided, but the reasoning behind it is repeated till the point of exhaustion. "Failure isn't necessarily a bad thing so tell your kids to keep trying." is basically the soul of this essay.
ReplyDeleteThe essay “How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success” by Tara Haelle discusses the importance of parents teaching their children that failure is something to build success off of. She begins her informative essay by describing just how influential parents are in effecting the lives of their children through the message they send. She goes on to provide examples of several studies that have been conducting which show that children are more likely to face less stress and improve off of their failures when their parents have a mindset of improvement as well. Towards the end, she does a nice job of providing a counter example against the failure-is-an-opportunity mindset by stating that the message can backfire, causing students to blame their parents for the difficulties they may have. Finally, Haelle ends her article with a short quotation on the importance of striking the right balance between the two mindsets she discussed.
ReplyDeleteThroughout this piece of writing, Haelle includes a large amount of quotations and statistics to explain the points she is laying out. From the first paragraph to the last, she quotes other professionals in the field. While this may help her build her credibility (ethos), she does very little analyzing. Although the evidence and quotations do speak for themselves, it is very difficult to distinguish her own voice and style of writing. Personally, I feel that this essay could use a bit more of the author’s own analysis to keep the reader interested. Without it, it simply feels like reading the very same studies that the information came from.
In the end, I do agree with her finishing point. Good parenting is typically about finding the right balance between ways to act around your children. Whether it is being strict vs. giving the child freedom or helping kids vs. letting them learn on their own, typically the use of both in moderation can result in the best outcomes.
The short story "How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle is about how parents should teach their children to learn from their mistakes. Haelle talks about how kids shouldn't just let the failures devastate them, but let them learn a valuable lesson. Various psychology professors, like Kyla Haimovitz, were interviewed and the overall message that was stated was parents play a critical part in teaching and helping their children develop. "Parents have this powerful effect really early on and throughout childhood to send messages about what is a failure, and how to respond to it."(244) This shows that parents have a bond with their children and that allows the kids to look up to them and respond accordingly. Haimovitz says that how the parents react to their children's failures, they will impact their decisions on how they will conquer mistakes. There were also surveys that were conducted and one of the results were that the children's beliefs are typically what their parent's beliefs for. The ethnic and racial background play a role in determining how the children will see their failures. Different cultures have various beliefs towards standards.
ReplyDeleteI think that this article was well written but most of it was talking about a study that different professors have researched. Haelle should have added more of her own opinion and ideas to the article so it could give her point of view, not another person's.
This article reminds me of when I messed up at a piano competition. I felt really bad but my parents encouraged me and told me that it was just another learning experience. After that I learned from my mistakes and kept practicing for the following year.
"How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle discusses the conundrum of good parenting and how to treat failure. Haelle incorporates different studies in different settings to strengthen her examination and emphasises the importance of balance, suggesting that treating failure as a hindrance would most likely encourage a fixed mindset while ignoring failure or "encouraging" failure would probably lead to disbelief and a total lack of growth. It is here that Haelle points out the challenge for parenting: be a strong support system for the child but let them have their own growth.
ReplyDeleteHaelle builds her essay with many quotes and study results, therefore using lots of logos and ethos. She also chooses a selection of studies from different settings around the world and acknowledges how culture will affect a child's mindset. However, her use of a variety of studies also hinders her essay as it comes to the point where she will put out an idea and immediately backtrack it. There is no backbone for the content she uses.
This essay makes me try to empathise with my parents, something that I have had a bit of trouble with. I like to think that I'm pretty good with empathy, I can empathise with strangers, book characters, friends, enemies, etc. However I have never been able to really empathise with my parents. Rationally I know that they are trying to raise me the best they can, but I am also a sort of outcast in my family: I'm the only one focused on humanities and liberal arts. This difference causes more problems than what immediately comes to mind, especially within our system of belief and failure. I don't believe that I know enough to fully understand what is happening and how it affects me, but for now I just have to wait it out.
Claire Liu
In Haelle's "How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success," she informs the reader on the effects of failure and setting up for success. She starts off the passage by stressing the importance parents have on their children, by using the quote of Haimovitz, saying, "Parents need to represent this to their kids in the ways they react about their kids' failures and setbacks." She then expands on the idea by saying that the way a child learn from mistakes and set themselves for success is based on the response the parent gives.
ReplyDeleteAfter Haimovitz and Dweck conducting studies, they came to the conclusion that, "The way children perceived 'being smart' was not related to how their parents perceived intelligence, but it was related to how their parents reacted toward failure" in the research of how the interactions between parent's failure and intelligence mindsets affected their children's beliefs of intelligence. With the continuation of studies, both found that, "Those who saw failure as negative were more likely to worry about their child's abilities in that subject or to comfort their child about not being talented in all subjects. But parents who saw failure as an opportunity were more likely to ask their child what they learned from the quiz, what they still can learn and whether asking the teacher for help would be useful." Finally in their final study, it was seen that a parent's failure beliefs directly caused their children's beliefs through their reactions to failure.
The author then sums up the work's content by saying it's paramount for parents to support children while also not being to passive, which in result, creating it to backfire.
I find this passage very informative with its objectivity and wise quotes from professionals.
-Jonah Bahr
"How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" a story by Tara Haelle is a story about teaching children how to use their mistakes as a learning experience and help them improve rather than just let them go. A study by Gail Heyman, a professor of psychology, says that what the kids take from what they got wrong depends on how the parents react. If the parents react with a response that comforts the child, the child will move on and focus on something else. On the other hand, if the parent asked the child what they learned, and what they can still learn even if they did poorly, the parents would use this as a learning opportunity and not just comfort their child. According to Cleopatra Abdou, no matter what, across all cultures, is that the message that we get as children stays with us and a hard to unlearn.
ReplyDeleteThe message that Haelle wants to point out is that the message you give as a parent will resonate in your child for the rest of their life, and that the this happens to every race and culture the same way.
I think that the story is a good message, and it was backed up with many facts.
"How to Teach Children That Failure Is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle is a piece about how an adults outlook on failure can greatly influence their children's lives. Haelle talks about how parents should teach their children to learn from failure instead of getting mad or not caring at all. She cites a study by Gail Heyman, who is a psychology professor. The study says that kids base their conception of failure on what their parents teach them and how their parents react. Children can end up being either too hard on themselves or too laid back about failure, depending on how their parents react earlier in their lives.
ReplyDeleteThis essay is very well written, with good ethos elements with the quotes and studies that are referenced, strong pathos with the results of the studies and how parents will feel more responsible for how their kid's futures and outlooks on a main part of life, failure. There is also good logos with all the facts and statistics through the studies. Haelle's message, generally stated, is that as a parent you are responsible for pieces of knowledge that will form what your child sees as reality.
In the short essay, "How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success" by Tara Haelle explains studies she has conducted and analyzed. At the beginning, she brings up a point about how parents can have an effect on their child's development in mindsets and motivation. She later gives an example, "If a child comes home with a D on a math test, how a parent responds will influence how the child perceives their own ability to learn math." If the parent responds in a good intention-ed way saying, "It's OK, you're still a great writer." it will send the wrong message to the child. She analyzes the study conducted by Haimovitz and Dweek about how the "interactions between parents' failure and intelligence mindsets affected their children's beliefs about intelligence." The question they orchestrated their study on was based on whether the parents sought intelligence as "something that could change and whether they saw failure as positive, or as negative." The children responded that intelligence was not based off what their parents thought of it as. Their multiple studies in the United States have shown that more parents who believe that failure undermines intelligence, the more concerned the children will be about their grades than the overall understanding on the topic. The parents of the children correlate failure as a learning opportunity often are interested in what the student can still learn. Later, socioeconomic backgrounds, race, and culture are factored in the equation, and a study in China has proven that the results differ among different ethnic groups such as black and Latino students. The universal message that the author expresses is that students usually tend to follow through with what their parents have taught them.
ReplyDeleteIn the essay, "How to Teach Children that Failure is the Secret to Success," is about the author's input into why failure can be beneficial towards a child's life, especially the child's early stages. The author brings up Heyman's studies, which were about the child's interpretations and conceptions about failure are all from what the parents teach them.
ReplyDeleteI believe that Heyman is trying to point out that the parents of a child must support them as much as they can, however, the child must grow by themselves. One thing that I felt was flawed in this essay was that the author didn't necessarily voice their opinion, but instead tries to voice her opinion mainly based off of other studies. I would've loved to see more of what the author thought.
The message that Haelle is truly trying to show is that parents have a huge factor inside of a child's life, specifically when teaching things to the child.
connor lee
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ReplyDeleteTara Haelle concludes in “How to Teach Children That Failure is the Secret to Success” that children learn their attitudes about failure and growth from their parents at a young age. If parents believe that failure is debilitating, rather than an opportunity for growth, their children will believe the same. Thus, parents should be more mindful about the assumptions concerning failure and learning from failure that they impart on their children.
Much of Haelle’s essay is based on research from psychologists Carol Dweck and Kyla Haimovitz. Haelle quotes from Dweck that “Parents have this powerful effect really early on and throughout childhood to send messages about what is failure,[and] how to respond to it. Parents, Haelle writes, must take each of their children’s failures as an opportunity to stimulate growth. Haimovitz is quoted as stating “The takeaway that [from research about mindsets] is that when your child is struggling on something or has setbacks, don’t focus on their abilities, focus on what they can learn from it.” However, Haelle cautions against blaming parents entirely for their children's attitudes about failure; temperament, which is generally intrinsic to an individual, is also partly responsible for the mindsets people form. Haelle concludes her essay by noting the difficulties of mindset-conscious parenting. Parents must balance encouraging their children and passing on personal responsibility.
Haelle’s thesis is correct, and highly difficult to doubt in light of the extensive evidence she employs. However, the author brings no new insights or implications of the research she presents. “How to Teach Children” is not really an essay in any meaningful sense, but merely a summarization of already-popular psychological research. The utter uselessness of Haelle’s essay is further comprehended when the fact that the conclusions she presents are totally uncontroversial is realized: it is inconceivable that any parent would doubt that their beliefs are passed on to their children. Friedrich Nietzsche even recognized this in the 194th aphorism of Beyond Good and Evil: “Parents involuntarily make something like themselves out of their children--they call that "education"; no mother doubts at the bottom of her heart that the child she has borne is thereby her property, no father hesitates about his right to HIS OWN ideas and notions of worth.” Moreover, the implications of the new mindset research are much less happy and sympathetic than they superficially seem. The full adoption of Haelle’s thesis means that children will no longer be able to compartmentalize their self-disappointment from failure as stemming from natural inclinations and disadvantages--they will account each of their failures as the total result of their actions, i.e., they will observe a failure in the sense of its real meaning. This is admirable, but it requires much more bravery and determination than most possess and that Haelle accounts for. Once the true implications of mindset psychology are accepted, the surreal ironies of the present situation come to light. The popular Instagram platitudes and motivational speeches that informally cite these ideas are the negation of this research in terms of its true meaning. For the current culture to elevate the myth of the individual to further heights of greatness, it also had to secretly insert a newer, vaster, soul-crushing personal responsibility humanity must acknowledge if it wishes to maintain the current pretense of godly individualism. Nietzsche’s legacy becomes oddly visible in this case: the masses, realizing the awe of the few, has invented a new social order that made the rendered the two extremes indistinguishable. Haelle’s essay is ultimately cheap praise of humanity’s replacement of the religious and biological family with the individual and state.